Ed. Note: The following letter was submitted by a reader. I am happy to report that the situation is not real for her, sad to report that it is very real for, apparently, many.
I found out my husband is having an affair. He does not know that I know. The shocking part, is not that he is having the affair, but my feelings surrounding my findings. I am relieved. As an exhausted mother, staying home with our children, I am glad that there is a woman out there catering to his "needs." My life is comfortable, my children have their father in their life regularly, and I'm fine keeping the status quo. My best friend said I need to leave him and sue his ass for child support and go find someone new. I don't want another man, I don't want one more thing that needs my attention.
What do you think?
Happily Let off the Hook
Dear Happily Let off the Hook,
I will not go so far as to say that you are the perfect woman since I have not seen you. But you are damn close, whatever you look like. You have hit upon a very important truth--happiness has many definitions. You are happy. Your husband is happy. I bet your kids are happy. Your friend is a nosy, opinionated bitch. So, it sounds to me like you need new friends and everything will be fine.